Fourth date was at my place. Lovely. Yay! Except...
His place was pristine and amazing and wonderful and the tidiest place I've ever been in. My place is... not like that. So the day before the date was spent stressing and tidying and cleaning and stressing some more. I didn't want his first impression of my place to be that it was a complete tip! So I managed to get it into a state that was only slightly like a tip before he came round. And it all went rather well, so I guess he didn't mind that I have stuff ALL OVER THE PLACE compared to him. Phew!
Now we're getting to know each other better I don't think I'll feel the need to stress quite so much when (yes! when!) he comes over again. Although this time I'll log out of my facebook so I don't need to spend half my time trying to stop him from changing my status to something wildly inappropriate.
Thursday, 11 April 2013
Saturday, 30 March 2013
Saturday, 2 March 2013
Second Date! Second Date!
I went on a second date! Yay! Take THAT, New Year's Resolution!
So, yes. Second date. We went for some food, and saw a film. And it was really lovely. Lots more chatting, finding out more about each other, and liking what we found out. No real flirting to speak of, mind you. But then I'm rubbish at flirting, so I was never going to start down that road until he does. I did get a kiss on the cheek at the end of the evening though!
He's going away for a few weeks now, but he said he'll text me while he's away, so it's looking good for a third date.
In other news, it's weird how many people tell you they're online dating once you tell them you are. It's like everyone has this secret, and they think they're the only one, but once one person opens up it turns out everyone's in the same boat.
So, yes. Second date. We went for some food, and saw a film. And it was really lovely. Lots more chatting, finding out more about each other, and liking what we found out. No real flirting to speak of, mind you. But then I'm rubbish at flirting, so I was never going to start down that road until he does. I did get a kiss on the cheek at the end of the evening though!
He's going away for a few weeks now, but he said he'll text me while he's away, so it's looking good for a third date.
In other news, it's weird how many people tell you they're online dating once you tell them you are. It's like everyone has this secret, and they think they're the only one, but once one person opens up it turns out everyone's in the same boat.
Thursday, 14 February 2013
Date!
I had a date! And it went really well! Hurrah!
We ate some food and drank some (non alcoholic) cocktails and talked and talked and talked. It's weird, because we seem to have nothing in common at all, and yet there wasn't a single awkward silence.
When we parted at the end of the date, he said he'd call. So I waited AN ENTIRE DAY and no phone call. Now, being unused to dating, I don't know what the rules are. If someone says they'll call, how soon do they mean? So, on the second evening after the date I took the plunge and sent him a message saying I'd like to see him again. And then spent a nervous two hours watching my phone. And then he replied! Hurrah! And he said he'd like to see me again too! Double hurrah!
So, I might be about to achieve my new year's resolution of finding 'Mr Second Date' (Mr Right seemed like a step too far...) and it's only February. Things are looking good!
We ate some food and drank some (non alcoholic) cocktails and talked and talked and talked. It's weird, because we seem to have nothing in common at all, and yet there wasn't a single awkward silence.
When we parted at the end of the date, he said he'd call. So I waited AN ENTIRE DAY and no phone call. Now, being unused to dating, I don't know what the rules are. If someone says they'll call, how soon do they mean? So, on the second evening after the date I took the plunge and sent him a message saying I'd like to see him again. And then spent a nervous two hours watching my phone. And then he replied! Hurrah! And he said he'd like to see me again too! Double hurrah!
So, I might be about to achieve my new year's resolution of finding 'Mr Second Date' (Mr Right seemed like a step too far...) and it's only February. Things are looking good!
Friday, 18 January 2013
Well, it's been a while!
It's been a while since I last posted on here, mostly because it's been a while since I last went on the dating site. However, I've given myself a kick up the bum, and decided I'm not going to get anywhere by sitting around waiting for someone to find me. So I'm back in the game!
But it's hard! The problem is, you can see whether your messages have been read or not. If you couldn't, it'd be fine. If you didn't get a reply you'd just think 'Well, he probably hasn't read it yet' and then you'd forget all about him anyway. But no. The site tells you whether your messages have been read or not. So you can, with a couple of clicks, see just how many guys you sent messages to who have deemed you unworthy of a reply. It's rejection, but on a massive scale.
I can't feel too bad though, I mean, I do the same thing. People message me, and I read their message and then... ignore them. Mostly, though, because I'm horribly shallow, the reason why I ignore them is their photo. Or their age, I guess. Or the fact that their profile message is weird, or missing, or makes them sound so far up themselves that they're probably suffering from vitamin D deficiency from never seeing sunlight. But probably their photo, more often than not. So if I'm being ignored for the same reason... well... woe.
So maybe I just need to be strong and not click on the 'sent messages' bit. But it's there... I don't think I can...
But it's hard! The problem is, you can see whether your messages have been read or not. If you couldn't, it'd be fine. If you didn't get a reply you'd just think 'Well, he probably hasn't read it yet' and then you'd forget all about him anyway. But no. The site tells you whether your messages have been read or not. So you can, with a couple of clicks, see just how many guys you sent messages to who have deemed you unworthy of a reply. It's rejection, but on a massive scale.
I can't feel too bad though, I mean, I do the same thing. People message me, and I read their message and then... ignore them. Mostly, though, because I'm horribly shallow, the reason why I ignore them is their photo. Or their age, I guess. Or the fact that their profile message is weird, or missing, or makes them sound so far up themselves that they're probably suffering from vitamin D deficiency from never seeing sunlight. But probably their photo, more often than not. So if I'm being ignored for the same reason... well... woe.
So maybe I just need to be strong and not click on the 'sent messages' bit. But it's there... I don't think I can...
Friday, 15 June 2012
How Not To Attract Potential Dates
To all the guys out there:
If you want someone to look at your profile on a dating site, here's what NOT to do. The following is a direct copy/paste from someone's profile. Oh deary me.
"9 Things I Hate About Everyone
1. People who point at their wrist asking for the time... I know where my watch is pal, where the hell is yours? Do I point at my crotch when I ask where the toilet is?
2. People who are willing to get off their a** to search the entire room for the TV remote because they refuse to walk to the TV and change the channel manually.
3. When people say "Oh you just want to have your cake and eat it too". Damn Right! What good is cake if you can't eat it?
4. When people say "it's always the last place you look". Of course it is. Why the hell would you keep looking after you've found it? Do people do this? Who and where are they?
5. When people say while watching a film, "did ya see that?" No Loser, I paid £12 to come to the cinema and stare at the damn floor!
6. People who ask "Can I ask you a question?"... Didn't give me a choice there, did ya sunshine?
7. When something is 'new and improved'. Which is it? If it's new, then there has never been anything before it. If it's an improvement, then there must have been something before it, couldn't be new.
8. When people say "life is short". What the hell??? Life is the longest damn thing anyone ever does!!! What can you do thats longer?
9. When you are waiting for the bus and someone asks "Has the bus come yet?" If the bus came, would I be standing here???"
If you want someone to look at your profile on a dating site, here's what NOT to do. The following is a direct copy/paste from someone's profile. Oh deary me.
"9 Things I Hate About Everyone
1. People who point at their wrist asking for the time... I know where my watch is pal, where the hell is yours? Do I point at my crotch when I ask where the toilet is?
2. People who are willing to get off their a** to search the entire room for the TV remote because they refuse to walk to the TV and change the channel manually.
3. When people say "Oh you just want to have your cake and eat it too". Damn Right! What good is cake if you can't eat it?
4. When people say "it's always the last place you look". Of course it is. Why the hell would you keep looking after you've found it? Do people do this? Who and where are they?
5. When people say while watching a film, "did ya see that?" No Loser, I paid £12 to come to the cinema and stare at the damn floor!
6. People who ask "Can I ask you a question?"... Didn't give me a choice there, did ya sunshine?
7. When something is 'new and improved'. Which is it? If it's new, then there has never been anything before it. If it's an improvement, then there must have been something before it, couldn't be new.
8. When people say "life is short". What the hell??? Life is the longest damn thing anyone ever does!!! What can you do thats longer?
9. When you are waiting for the bus and someone asks "Has the bus come yet?" If the bus came, would I be standing here???"
Monday, 4 June 2012
Am I a bitch?
It's been ages since I last updated this, because I've not been doing much dating-wise recently. But then I went to a wedding, and thought I needed to get a move on with having one of those myself! So I'm back in the game again.
Anyway, I was chatting to this chap. Online, obviously. He seemed pretty nice, intelligent and interesting. He was new to the site, however, and hadn't yet put up a photo. So I asked to see what he looks like. Um. The result wasn't good. Um. So now what? Surely whatever happens, he's gonna know I'm no longer interested purely because he showed me his photo. Am I a bitch for not replying to his last message? Am I giving him a complex about how he looks? Is he now never going to find love due to spending his whole life with a paper bag on his head?
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