Well, it's been a while!

It's been a while since I last posted on here, mostly because it's been a while since I last went on the dating site. However, I've given myself a kick up the bum, and decided I'm not going to get anywhere by sitting around waiting for someone to find me. So I'm back in the game!

But it's hard! The problem is, you can see whether your messages have been read or not. If you couldn't, it'd be fine. If you didn't get a reply you'd just think 'Well, he probably hasn't read it yet' and then you'd forget all about him anyway. But no. The site tells you whether your messages have been read or not. So you can, with a couple of clicks, see just how many guys you sent messages to who have deemed you unworthy of a reply. It's rejection, but on a massive scale.

I can't feel too bad though, I mean, I do the same thing. People message me, and I read their message and then... ignore them. Mostly, though, because I'm horribly shallow, the reason why I ignore them is their photo. Or their age, I guess. Or the fact that their profile message is weird, or missing, or makes them sound so far up themselves that they're probably suffering from vitamin D deficiency from never seeing sunlight. But probably their photo, more often than not. So if I'm being ignored for the same reason... well... woe.

So maybe I just need to be strong and not click on the 'sent messages' bit. But it's there... I don't think I can...

How Not To Attract Potential Dates

To all the guys out there:

If you want someone to look at your profile on a dating site, here's what NOT to do. The following is a direct copy/paste from someone's profile. Oh deary me.

"9 Things I Hate About Everyone

1. People who point at their wrist asking for the time... I know where my watch is pal, where the hell is yours? Do I point at my crotch when I ask where the toilet is?

2. People who are willing to get off their a** to search the entire room for the TV remote because they refuse to walk to the TV and change the channel manually.

3. When people say "Oh you just want to have your cake and eat it too". Damn Right! What good is cake if you can't eat it?

4. When people say "it's always the last place you look". Of course it is. Why the hell would you keep looking after you've found it? Do people do this? Who and where are they?

5. When people say while watching a film, "did ya see that?" No Loser, I paid £12 to come to the cinema and stare at the damn floor!

6. People who ask "Can I ask you a question?"... Didn't give me a choice there, did ya sunshine?

7. When something is 'new and improved'. Which is it? If it's new, then there has never been anything before it. If it's an improvement, then there must have been something before it, couldn't be new.

8. When people say "life is short". What the hell??? Life is the longest damn thing anyone ever does!!! What can you do thats longer?

9. When you are waiting for the bus and someone asks "Has the bus come yet?" If the bus came, would I be standing here???"

Am I a bitch?

It's been ages since I last updated this, because I've not been doing much dating-wise recently. But then I went to a wedding, and thought I needed to get a move on with having one of those myself! So I'm back in the game again.

Anyway, I was chatting to this chap. Online, obviously. He seemed pretty nice, intelligent and interesting. He was new to the site, however, and hadn't yet put up a photo. So I asked to see what he looks like. Um. The result wasn't good. Um. So now what? Surely whatever happens, he's gonna know I'm no longer interested purely because he showed me his photo. Am I a bitch for not replying to his last message? Am I giving him a complex about how he looks? Is he now never going to find love due to spending his whole life with a paper bag on his head?

Another Date!

So I'm back from my second date. That's two dates total, with two different people. Not a proper second date with the same person.

So anyway, this date went much better than the last. We went out for a meal, then to a bar for a drink. I think it went really well! We both said we enjoyed it, and that we'd be in touch, so hopefully there'll be a proper second date this time. Fingers crossed!

More odd people, plus a date!

There are many, many odd people on online dating sites. Or at least there are on the one I'm on. One, for instance, I had a good conversation going with, but then he said he was going away and his membership was going to expire, so that was the end of that. But then this week he reappeared, and said 'Hi, I'm back'. So I replied with 'Hi', because I didn't know what to say. I then got three or four messages from him apologising for contacting me again as I clearly wasn't interested. Apparently he knew I wasn't interested because I 'disappeared'. But I didn't disappear, he did, due to him going away and his membership expiring. He then apologised for coming across like a freak. I'm not sure what to make of him now.

But anyway, I've set up another date with someone else. But now I have an issue of what to wear. Last date was fine, as we went round a museum, so jeans and a top were good for that. But what does one wear on a dinner date? It's not an especially posh place, I think, so will smart jeans and a top do for that too? Help please!

You know I'm under no obligation to reply to you, right?

Over the weekend, three whole people from the dating website messaged me to moan that I hadn't messaged them.

Person one was the hobbit mentioned previously in this blog.

Person two first showed me his photo and asked to see mine. I had a glance at his profile and quite liked his piccy, so showed him my photo. He then sent me a lovely long message, and I was about to reply when I saw he lived miles and miles away and was a veggie. I live in my house and am not a veggie. This was clearly never going to work. So I didn't reply. Then I get a message from him, saying that he can see I'm online and that I've read his message, and asking why I haven't replied. Stalker, much? So I replied telling him that a veggie that lives far far away is not what I'm looking for, and he thanked me for having the decency to reply to that message at least.

Urm... hang on. This is a dating website where people message people all the time. I'm under no obligation to reply to you if I don't like what I see, if I change my mind about you, if I'm not in the mood, or if I just can't be bothered. I've sent people messages that haven't been replied to before, and when you don't get a reply you just think 'Meh, well, he's obviously found someone he prefers, or he's gone off me, either way it's fine'. Sending moany needy messages asking why the object of your stalking hasn't replied isn't the way to find true love, I reckon.

And then there's person three. We'd sent each other a couple of messages, but then I went off him a bit. He said 'You didn't reply to my last message, was it something I said?'. As the answer was, quite honestly, 'Urm... yeah...' I didn't reply.

Ooh! Also! I got a message from someone calling himself handsome. He's not.

So...?

Have I set a precedent? Do I need to start each post with 'So'?

No! I shan't! This stops now! So there :-)